We’ve all been there.
You have an amazing idea for a new product, a new service, a new business. You want to start a website, post what you really think on social media, raise your rates, start a side hustle.
You feel inspired, excited, and ready to get to work.
And then you think, What will so-and-so think?
And you feel instantly deflated. Defeated. Dragged down.
It might be your mother-in-law, your dad, a high school friend, or your spouse.
You’re afraid to reach for the stars because they might laugh at you. Say something scornful. Make fun of your idea. Belittle you. Or say something passive aggressive like, “Don’t get too big for your britches.”
My client and coach Susan Hyatt calls this lobster-in-a-pot syndrome.
Imagine you’ve got a bunch of lobsters in a giant, boiling pot. One of them thinks, “Man, it’s getting hot in here.” He starts clawing his way up, trying to escape the pot.
Here’s what happens next: the other lobsters drag him back down.
They don’t want him to escape if they can’t.
We all have people in our lives who are like those lobsters. They want us to stay down with them. They don’t want us escaping our lives, creating something new or beautiful or different. They want us to stay in the muck with them, complaining about how things will never change.
Don’t let them drag you back down.
Surround yourself with people who will encourage you: friends, fellow entrepreneurs, a coach who will cheer you on (that could be me!).
If you’ve got an idea, share it with people who are going to spur you on – not people who are going to drag you down.
July 26, 2019